things worth believing in

In the movie Secondhand Lions, Uncle Hub teaches Walter an important lesson:

"If you want to believe in something, believe in it. Just because something isn't true, that's no reason you can't believe in it. Sometimes the things that may or may not be true are the things a man needs to believe in the most: that people are basically good; that honor, courage, and virtue mean everything; that power and money, money and power mean nothing; that good always triumphs over evil; and, I want you to remember this, that love... true love never dies. Remember that, boy, remember that. It doesn't matter if it's true or not, a man should believe in those things because those are the things worth believing in."

Black Narcissus

One of my favorite movie lines is from Black Narcissus. The conversation goes like this:

Mother Dorothea: Give her responsibility, Sister. She badly wants importance. Sister Clodagh: Do you think it's a good thing to let her feel important? Mother Dorothea: Spare her some of your own importance... if you can.

It is a mark of greatness to spare others some of our own importance. We do that when we let others tell the story we could tell better; when we rejoice when another receives a privilege/honor we wanted for ourselves; when we resist the urge to take over when others “don’t measure up”. Sparing someone some of our own importance is not giving offense, it is not taking offense; it is humbly letting something go. It is listening when we have much to say. It is sparing some of “our valuable time” to perform random acts of kindness; it IS a random act of kindness. Letting others feel important is a way to value them, and valuing others is the key to healthy human relations.

Thank-you, dear readers, friends, for helping me feel important. You are very special to me. I am leaving early tomorrow and will be away for a while, staying with my sister’s children while she and her husband have a much-needed vacation. Call my cell if you’d like to chat!