Love is Shared Interests

It is nice when individuals have hobbies and interests that they enjoy separately, it adds a richness to their family.  Her love of music and his love of sports doubly bless their children as they are given opportunities to explore both interests for themselves.  The more exposure they have to various interests, the more likely they are to become well-rounded adults, interested in many things.  But it is good, too, to have shared interests, as a family and as a couple.  Sure, he can humor her by taking ballroom dancing lessons, and she can humor him by learning to play golf, but they should try to find at least one thing that they both love to do, and then do it together often to strengthen their friendship and just enjoy being together.  Set aside a specific time, and honor that, look forward to it, make it special.  All too often couples set aside a Friday or Saturday night as a “date night” then end up using that time to take care of family needs, grocery shopping, attending church or school meetings, or driving the kids where they need to be. That time together, although it fills the need of being together, hardly fills the need for true relationship building. Even worse, many decide, “If all we’re going to do is shop for groceries, let’s not even bother; I’d rather do it by myself anyway.”