Tuesday, July 29, 2008

answers to life's problems

When my boss died, his practice was sold and I took fulltime work for another dentist that I knew and had been an acquaintance of my former boss. He appeared to be a religious man and I assumed him to be of the same caliber as my previous employer. It soon became apparent that he was not cut of the same cloth. He did such things as remove an old crown, go through the motions of making a new crown, but just re-seat the old crown, then charge the patient for a new crown. He put a six-year old child through capping her front four baby teeth, even though they were loose and due to fall out in a few weeks, because the insurance would pay for it. There was incident after incident.

I knew I had a moral responsibility but didn’t know how to handle the dilemma. I wanted some concrete guidance, some sign from heaven, maybe just reassurance from somewhere that would give me the courage. I prayed about it constantly, I documented the cases, and pondered how to handle things, all the while waiting for divine direction.

Finally the answer came while reading the scriptures. I already knew what needed to be done, I didn’t need to wait for divine direction. In fact, I would be slothful and not a wise servant if I didn’t do what I knew I needed to do.

It took a great deal of courage for me to bring him before the proper authorities. I laid out my documentation. His response was to excuse himself because “everyone does it”, to claim he had “repented of that” and he didn’t “do that anymore”. His testimony carried more weight than mine, and things were resolved, although not to my satisfaction (no reparations to any of the patients were required of him). I gave two weeks notice and, traumatized, decided to give up the profession altogether. Fortunately, a good friend of mine from dental school needed a hygienist and working for him restored my faith in dentists in general.

I don’t wait so long anymore before searching the scriptures for answers to life’s problems. It always amazes me that everything I need to know is available to me in those pages.

3 comments:

jamiecassidy said...

That must have been a very uncomfortable "two weeks"
-for both of you-
Probably one of the hardest things to deal with is when others expect less from themselves than we expect of them, even though a shared belief system is supposed keep you both on track.

That's when I eventually look at myself and ask, "who is getting less from me than they expect?" (most people). I suppose I am my own worst critic.

I guess the point is, if I won't set the limits of my own moral compass, who will?

That was kind of a bum deal all the way around.

I have heard that our kids go through a similar let-down feeling the first time they discover that we as parents are less than perfect.

What a blessing your life has been because of your personal compass.

I have been thinking on the one hand, I won't want you to stop writing at the end of 55 days...

And on the other hand, how long can she keep this up?

What great life experiences!

I can imagine some would nickname you Mary Poppins.
"nearly perfect in every way" what a compliment that would be...
Also, your friend DXOX is very protective of your image and what you believe about yourself. That was very nice to see.

jamiecassidy said...

That must have been a very uncomfortable "two weeks"
-for both of you-
Probably one of the hardest things to deal with is when others expect less from themselves than we expect of them, even though a shared belief system is supposed keep you both on track.

That's when I eventually look at myself and ask, "who is getting less from me than they expect?" (most people). I suppose I am my own worst critic.

I guess the point is, if I won't set the limits of my own moral compass, who will?

That was kind of a bum deal all the way around.

I have heard that our kids go through a similar let-down feeling the first time they discover that we as parents are less than perfect.

What a blessing your life has been because of your personal compass.

I have been thinking on the one hand, I won't want you to stop writing at the end of 55 days...

And on the other hand, how long can she keep this up?

What great life experiences!

I can imagine some would nickname you Mary Poppins.
"nearly perfect in every way" what a compliment that would be...
Also, your friend DXOX is very protective of your image and what you believe about yourself. That was very nice to see.

Lovey said...

Yes, it was very awkward; but I must say, not as bad as it could have been (I wonder if he took the whole thing as a kind of wake-up call). I was afraid he would black-ball me throughout the city and I would not be able to work there again. I took the Arizona board and interviewed in Phoenix/Mesa area, but felt it was not the right time to move, so I was very glad to stay put and work for my good friend. The thing about having high expectations of others is that quite often it helps them stretch themselves. I find that is true as a parent, I want to be all my children expect me to be. On the other hand, letting them also see our weaknesses helps them accept their own... I'm sure even Mary Poppins had some weaknesses!
I have been thinking that I won't want to stop at 55 days either... but I wonder how long I can keep it up, too! It has been very therapeutic for me, to be sure...
DXOX is my sister-in-law and a very wonderful lady!